tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post5146642114061509760..comments2023-10-22T05:31:38.203-07:00Comments on God, Mom, Alzheimer's and Me: I Can Run But I Can't Hide!Linda Bornhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07878172863563837367noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post-18365449358205049992012-05-11T14:06:12.100-07:002012-05-11T14:06:12.100-07:00Allison, Happy Mother's Day to you too! You c...Allison, Happy Mother's Day to you too! You couldn't have given me a nicer gift than your kind words. There are many blessings on the path ahead of you; there will be laughter but also tears. There is hidden blessing in tears, because when we are sad God wraps His comforting arms around us and that is so sweet. I pray you will daily find new evidence of God's great love for you and for your mother and be comforted.Linda Bornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07878172863563837367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post-79546235740371467592012-05-11T13:25:19.252-07:002012-05-11T13:25:19.252-07:00Linda,
Thank you for your prayers! I just realized...Linda,<br />Thank you for your prayers! I just realized that you have a book and I will be purchasing it very soon. i am so filled with emotions. I want you to know that you are truly an angel of love and if I don't learn anything else from this blog, it will be tthe power of love. When I first stumbled onto your website I didn't know how powerful your words of encouragment would mean to me. I have somewhere and someone in the physical that I can turn to. I recently started praying to God to help me with this and he has given me you!!! Blessing to you and your mother. Happy Mother's Day!!!Allisonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post-1300329297486867082012-05-09T16:27:46.108-07:002012-05-09T16:27:46.108-07:00Allison, hope you see this; thanks so much for you...Allison, hope you see this; thanks so much for your comment on my blog today. Praying for you right now. <br />LindaLinda Bornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07878172863563837367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post-56011812211051510212012-05-09T13:37:02.077-07:002012-05-09T13:37:02.077-07:00Linda,
I just want to thank you for your blog. I...Linda,<br /><br />I just want to thank you for your blog. I have been with my mother for six months now dealing with her dementia and have been frustrated and resentful of her and the condition. My mom and I are very close and I love my mom very much. I don't want to continue to feel like this. I know that it is bothering her and myself. So I just want to say THANK YOU for this blog it means the world to me to know that I am not alone in the battle. I can give it to GOD where it belongs!!Allisonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post-90986805426268913002012-03-18T13:50:07.605-07:002012-03-18T13:50:07.605-07:00Linda, you inspired me to write my own blog. I'...Linda, you inspired me to write my own blog. I'm having a pretty bad day and figured it is better to spill it out in a blog than bore my friends any further. I just made my first post atPaulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11175727058289770422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post-91726661464206962312012-03-17T08:01:02.166-07:002012-03-17T08:01:02.166-07:00Thank you for writing this. It helps so much to kn...Thank you for writing this. It helps so much to know that someone else who is a strong Christian is struggling with the same emotions I am. I, too, worry that I will have terrible guilt after my mother is gone because I could not be loving or compassionate enough. Gluttonous and lazy is exactly the way I see her far too often. I'm trying so hard not to be judgmental, but it isn't easy. She never does anything she says she is going to do, and I get frustrated because of that. But I know it is probably the dementia. It also annoys me that she won't do anything at all for herself but insists on directing everything I do for her. I feel like screaming, "If you don't like how I do it, do it yourself!" But I don't. I just stuff it all inside until I can leave and then I can breath again. I've been a high school teacher for most of my life, a mom, and a writer. Caregiving for two parents with dementia is by far the hardest job I've ever had to do.Paulahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11175727058289770422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post-25787570429854567682012-03-15T16:21:29.931-07:002012-03-15T16:21:29.931-07:00For "T"--Oh I am praying for you now wit...For "T"--Oh I am praying for you now with tears in my eyes. I've found that loving my enemies and praying for those who persecute me is difficult--but sometimes praying for those who "persecute" my loved ones seems just about impossible! Lord, enable us to pray with Your power for those who are unkind to our beloved moms, in Jesus' Name I pray. How difficult for you to exhibit compassion to the ones whose job it is to act as caregivers while simultaneously being as your mother's advocate. Praying for you now; wisdom, peace, guidance.Linda Bornhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07878172863563837367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post-65357153453766727232012-03-15T13:42:32.153-07:002012-03-15T13:42:32.153-07:00Hi Linda. Thank you so much for this blog. Your w...Hi Linda. Thank you so much for this blog. Your words are a great comfort to those of us dealing with loved ones afflicted with this disease. My mother also suffers from Alzheimers. She went into a local Christian Home to live in November 2011. It was such a difficult decision for our family to put her there. We did it for her safety and for the safety of my father. Some days I feel such anger at the "Christian" staff at the home for their insensitivity towards her. I also cannot help but feel guilty about the decision we had to make to put her in the home. I pray about it a lot because intellectually I realize that the staff are just doing the best that they can. Apparently she is considered one of their worst cases and they are trying have her moved to a more specialized Alzheimers Care Home. I work full time and visit during my off time. Each time I go with the best intentions but often leave feeling the same negative emotions you describe in this post. When Mom has a bad day she often says that she wishes she could die and that is hard to hear. I am so glad that I found your blog because it reminds me that prayer is the best route to take to deal with some of these difficulties. My father is alone at home now. It has been especially difficult for him. Today is their 54th wedding anniversary: the first one where my Mom has not lived at home. I can so identify with how you say you can run but you can't hide. When I am not with my Mom I am thinking about her. God bless you on your journey with your Mom. Thank you sharing your experience. It really helps to know that others out there understand. T (Ontario, Canada)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6575488140878213805.post-61689786605079504012012-03-13T18:14:59.022-07:002012-03-13T18:14:59.022-07:00I am praying with you and for you, Linda. We have...I am praying with you and for you, Linda. We have all had to turn to the Lord to ask for His help. This is a truly awful disease---it is the daily physical care, mental care, and emotional care that takes its toll on them and us. All we can do is our best, which means we are imperfect as we are human--and then we ask for forgiveness and strength! Bless you, Linda. Fondly, JillAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com